In memory of my dear sister-in-law, Leanne Holland Brown, who was taken from us suddenly on April 24, 2019.
What can I possibly say about my dear friend and sister-in-law Leanne? What words could capture the immensity of her influence, her goodness of spirit, her warmth and generosity, her kindness and love?
Words seem insufficient. But we use them the best we can to express our grief, the deep and wrenching sorrow of losing a wife. A mum. A daughter. A sister. A sister-in-law. An auntie. A cousin. A colleague. A neighbour. A mentor. A carpool buddy. A leader. A friend. And I guarantee the sweetest person you’d ever have the immense privilege of meeting.
In eulogizing a loved one, we tend to succumb to hyperbole. But let me tell you with absolute certainty that everything said about Leanne—in the hundreds of tributes, tweets, Facebook posts, and news articles—is not hyperbole. It’s absolute fact. Leanne really was that warm, inspiring, kind, gracious, generous, and loving. She had a way of making everyone feel like they were the most important person on earth. She had a way of making everyone feel valuable and loved, encouraged, and nurtured. She opened her heart up wide to everyone in her various broad circles and had such a lasting impact on everyone. Her family, her many friends, her coworkers and students, the Laurier community, and her village.
I first met Leanne when Kevin and I had just started dating. For our third date, Kevin suggested going to Ken and Leanne’s for a Superbowl party. While I initially thought it was a bit too early to be meeting the family, Ken and Leanne and little toddler Holden welcomed me into their home with open arms and made me feel like I was important and valuable, and not just some random girl Kevin was dating.
Neither Leanne nor I can match the sports fanaticism of Kevin and Ken, so we shared a cup of tea and heart-to-heart in their warm living room during the game. Even though she had just met me, Leanne treated me like I was already a close friend. I was struck by her sweetness and genuine curiosity about my life. As I was driving home to Grimsby that night, I realized I was falling a little bit in love with Kevin’s … family, and I could easily see myself becoming one of them someday.
Leanne leaves behind a true legacy of love. She is remembered fondly and dearly by so many. As I look out at this sea of faces of people who knew and loved Leanne, I’m encouraged that her memory will live on—in all of us, everyone who was touched by Leanne’s lifetime of love. As I was at her house last weekend, I couldn’t help but think how it would’ve made Leanne’s heart so happy to see so many of her favourite people under one roof sharing a meal. Her light will live on in the warm embraces we give each other, the heart-to-heart conversations, the cups of tea and glasses of wine we share, the gourmet dinners, the camping trips, the playdates, the afternoons spent shopping, the long nights spent talking, and in our words. May we lead each other with love, with care and compassion, with heartfelt prayers and encouraging support. May we shine God’s love on everyone we meet. May we all be a little gentler with each other and strive to see the best in everyone. Just like Leanne did.
On behalf of the family, we’d like to sincerely thank you all for your prayers and support during this dark and difficult time. For the prayers, the touching tributes, the check ins, the hugs and kind words and thoughtful gestures. One thing that Leanne was so passionate about was cultivating a village—surrounding her family with a circle of supportive friends who hold each other up in the good times and in the bad. While we may be in the darkest time of our lives, we have each other. We have the comfort of a Saviour who knew what it’s like to grieve, and who bears our burdens and gives peace to troubled hearts. And we’ll continue to hold each other just a little bit tighter, be just a little bit kinder, and not hesitate to let our loved ones know just how important and impactful they are.
Leanne’s last tweet encouraged the Laurier community after the death of a student. I’ll end with Leanne’s words. If only she knew how we would be clinging to them just days later:
“Joining with our Laurier community to grieve this loss, and affirm our care for each other. Know that we’ll buoy each other and those impacted with love in the days to come.”