One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that you have to love yourself the way you want to be loved.
You can’t expect people to read your mind and know what you need.
You can’t expect people to do anything, really. Expectations often lead to disappointment.
You have to make your own cake.
Only you know the ingredients required to make you feel loved and okay–whether it’s lots of rest and downtime, time spent in nature, nourishing food, a tangible reward, a spa day, etc.
You have to treat yo self.
And if you receive love from others, well, that’s just the icing on the cake!
In the wise words of Jeff Winger from Community:
None of us have to go to anyone, and the idea we do is a mental illness we contracted from breath mint commercials and Sandra Bullock. We can’t keep going to each other until we learn to go to ourselves. Stop making our hatred of ourselves someone else’s job and just stop hating ourselves.